Family Constellation is a powerful method to help you recognise difficult entanglements both in your family of origin as well as in your present family or relationship. Solution-oriented interventions bring understanding, which is followed by a deep relaxation that allows love to flow again between members of the family system.

Systemic Family Therapy was first developed by the German therapist Bert Hellinger. In this therapeutic approach, we consider the individual as part of a greater whole – a family system – rather than as a separate entity. His individual behavior, feelings and attitudes have to be understood in the context of this larger group. As in any other system, unspoken laws operating in the family guide behavior that we, as family members, are largely unaware of. Suffering usually arises in a family member when one or more members of the system unconsciously violate these archaic laws. They do this unknowingly, not out of rebelliousness as one might expect, but out of love – a ‘blind’ love.

The way we bring these hidden family dynamics to light is to have the client use the help of other group participants to create a constellation of his or her family. The participants representing members of that person’s family are positioned in the room in relation to each other according to the client’s feeling in that moment. In this way, we create a living model of their original (or present) family. What we have found is that the feelings and thoughts of the people representing family members are very similar to those of the actual family members.

This is usually carried out with a group of people, but it also works in individual sessions where cushions or other symbols can be used to represent the positions of family members.

This work uniquely uncovers any destructive family dynamic that may be lingering beneath the surface. But that is not all it does. When we use the responses of those standing in for family members, we find that the relations between members of the family can be modified to establish a new, more natural and healing balance for the whole system. Love in a family system flows best when a certain systemic ‘order’, or law, is respected. In Family Constellations we try to discover these ‘orders’, make them visible in the group and help a person to fall in tune with them. The newly established order translates into the system of the actual family itself.




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