The way we bring these hidden family dynamics to light is to have the client use the help of other group participants to create a constellation of his or her family. The participants representing members of that person’s family are positioned in the room in relation to each other according to the client’s feeling in that moment. In this way, we create a living model of their original (or present) family. What we have found is that the feelings and thoughts of the people representing family members are very similar to those of the actual family members.
This is usually carried out with a group of people, but it also works in individual sessions where cushions or other symbols can be used to represent the positions of family members.
This work uniquely uncovers any destructive family dynamic that may be lingering beneath the surface. But that is not all it does. When we use the responses of those standing in for family members, we find that the relations between members of the family can be modified to establish a new, more natural and healing balance for the whole system. Love in a family system flows best when a certain systemic ‘order’, or law, is respected. In Family Constellations we try to discover these ‘orders’, make them visible in the group and help a person to fall in tune with them. The newly established order translates into the system of the actual family itself.